I’ve recently started seeing a new guy. He says he doesn’t want to know his HIV status or take a test. How do I deal with this?

You must be a responsible young person if you want to know the status of your partner. That is very good. It sounds as if your new guy is not as responsible as you are. You need to be very clear and firm with him; unless he knows his status, he cannot expect to have a sexual relationship with you. If he does not test because he is afraid of the results, assure him that knowing is the best thing for anyone. Not testing does not make the HIV go away if you have it. It just delays you getting treatment and care and puts those in your life at risk. If he still does not want to test, then he is not for you. You deserve better.

Just remember, a test is not a guarantee that you will remain negative. You must use a condom because you can never know if anyone is truly faithful to you. If your partner swears that he is faithful and you believe him, you must test regularly.

Sis’ Lebo